Her Point of View: May

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked women to share the best advice they would offer to new mothers. Here’s what they said:

“Motherhood look different for everyone”
– Amber Allen, Postpartum Support Charleston

“Remember to take time for yourself, even if it’s just five minutes a day.
– Elaine Deakyne, executive director, Postpartum Support Charleston

“Try not to set such high expectations for you and your baby! We don’t realize it but these are all based on imaginary assumptions until we’re deep into our roles as mothers and know our children like the back of our hands.”
– Gervase Kolmos, mom coach, Shiny. Happy. Human.

“My advice is to enter motherhood with the awareness that so many things in your pre-baby life will change. Your rhythms, your routines, your energy level! Be open to never-ending states of transition, because in motherhood, when you finally get used to one phase, it’s time to move on to the next.”
– Angie Mizzell, mom, blogger, storyteller, angiemizzell.com

“When it comes to parenting, always go with your gut. Don’t worry about what any book says or what another mom tells you. You will know what is right.”
– Priscilla Brown, mom, blogger, thehopefulwanderers.com

“Don’t try to do it all alone. When a person with older kids says, ‘Can I babysit for you?’ Say, ‘Yes.’”
– Holly Fisher, Fisher Creative

“Stay calm and really try to enjoy every moment. Take it day by day. I get frazzled very easily. Stay calm. Take a deep breath. Try to enjoy all the little things, even the tantrums and tears.”
– Marissa Barnard, Beautycounter

“Don’t trick yourself into thinking that you have to have yourself and your whole life figured out by the time your little one arrives.  Becoming a mother for the first time is a tremendous opportunity to grow and evolve. Say ‘yes!’ to that moment when it comes, and don’t let an old idea you used to have about
yourself prevent you from stepping into it.”
– Katherine Hanson, blogger and founder, ModaBaby

My mom once told me, ‘God only gives you what you can handle,’ as she laid in a hospital bed fighting her battle with type 1 diabetes. She passed away when I was only 24. Sobbing, I thought, how can I go on without my mom? I still need her. She’ll never meet my future husband; my future kids will not have a memere.  I still need her. Then I thought, ‘God only gives you what you can handle.’

“Years later, I married and later was blessed with two amazing boys. During the pregnancies I was scared, no terrified, thinking, how am I going to do this without my mom? I need her. Again I remembered her voice, ‘God only gives you what you can handle.’ ‘I got this,’ I said, and pushed forward knowing I’d be OK. From fevers to diapers to fatigue, I heard her voice. ‘OK, I can handle this.’

“When my second son was 9 months old, I was diagnosed with a massive malignant brain tumor. Scared for my life, and for the lives of my boys, I prayed to my mom and heard her voice: God only gives you what you can handle. OK, Sarah, you got this! Fight for your boys. After four surgeries, cancer treatment and eight years, I am cancer free. But through it all, and to this day I always have my mom’s advice with me. Thanks Mom, because of you, I handled it.”
– Sarah Kravchuk, art director, skirt! magazine