Her Point of View: Best Relationship Advice

“Nobody completes you. First of all, you’re never complete; you’re always growing. Second, the other person is always growing, too, and sometimes you two will fit, but sometimes the friction will rub you raw. You just have to balance the vulnerability and the invulnerability of being your own person and being half of a couple.”

– Helen Mitternight, host of “Keep It Juicy” podcast

“One of my absolute favorite things someone told me when I was about to get married, and I now say it to nearly every future bride when they ask our advice, is to ‘be each other’s best friends AND biggest fans!’ There’s nothing better than to marry someone who you LOVE hanging out with, who you can be completely open and honest with and who cheers you on more than anyone else in your life!”  

– Jillian Osteen, Aaron & Jillian Photography

“Most marriages experience the same challenges. Responses to the challenges are what make each marriage different.”

– Jeannelle Perkins-Muhammad, marriage and family therapist

“Make sure you foster other relationships outside of your romantic one. The healthiest couples take time away from each other occasionally to enjoy their own friendships.  It’s important to have your own identity outside of your coupledom, and I always appreciate time with my husband even more after we spend a separate evening out with our friends. “

– Liz Martin, Charleston Weekender and co-owner of Cannonborough Collective

“Go on a vacation every year as a couple (doesn’t need to be long or expensive, just away from your everyday). Take time for just the two of you (not with either of your parents, friends or with kids, if you have them). Just you.”

– Ashley Summer Heslop, attorney

“My relationship is my mirror. When I was younger, I didn’t want to see what my partner would show me in the mirror, so I would just react in anger and self-defense any time he brought something up. My relationship has deepened and opened so much now that I force myself to look in the mirror he holds up, particularly when I least want to. I try to think of it as my opportunity to be the kind of woman and wife I say I want to be and am. It’s not always perfect, but the more we’re willing to be mirrors for each other and talk through things we see, the stronger our marriage becomes.”

– Gervase Kolmos, founder, Shiny. Happy. Human.

“Being married with kids with someone longer than a decade can be challenging, but here’s what I do to keep the fire burning: Always be a good friend to your significant other. It’s easy to take them for granted, so be kind, listen and be understanding. Say, ‘I love you.’ Even though they know, it’s always nice to hear it. You can never be too mushy in my house.”

– Andrea Serrano, Charleston Shop Curator

“Our partners are a reflection and a mirror for us. Everything that triggers us about them is really an invitation for self-examination.”

– Emily Cassel, women’s leadership coach