Life is unpredictable at times. It can take a 180-degree turn today even when everything was perfect yesterday. But in the end, life goes on and so should we. Sure, things are always different after a divorce, but things can also be better than yesterday. The key to this challenging phase is acceptance, resilience and having a vision for a better tomorrow. Take a deep breath, reinvent your life and find your passion with these 12 ways after a divorce.
- Look out for your inner fire
There’s no doubt that a divorce is traumatic to a person. You may get depressed, stressed, anxious and may even lose your self-confidence.
Therefore, it is crucial for you to look within yourself and find your inner fire or your passion. The mere setting of the status quo won’t help you in the long run. The goal is to find the things or activities that you love and something that keeps you engaged for hours and even for years. Contemplate your strengths and weaknesses and discover the real you!
- Re-build your career
With the chaos and uncertainty after your divorce, you may lose focus on your work. It can be a challenge to get back on track but learn to accept the things as they are and forgive yourself for the things that were out of control. Once you find a little motivation, don’t let it get away and use it to your advancement.
If you were bored with your job, think of switching careers or reinvent your existing career to a whole new level. For instance, if you always wanted to be an entrepreneur and start something on your own, take that leap of faith and get to work! Know your self-worth and settle with something that justifies your capabilities.
- Enhance what you got
Switching careers can be challenging, especially when the new job requires a little more in your resume. But there’s nothing to worry about as there’s always room for improvement.
The perfect way to handle the situation is by acquiring new skills, talents and enhancing the existing ones. Perhaps you would like to take an online course to develop new skills, or even apply for an internship. Make your resume stand out by incorporating unique and original hobbies. It should highlight your qualities that are hard to find in anyone else. Take time out and work on developing new skills, as well as polishing the existing ones.
- Make new connections
Humans are social animals. It’s very crucial for you that you don’t isolate yourself after a divorce. Take the divorce as an opportunity to connect with your old friends and family members.
Start building your professional circle as well. Connect with people on LinkedIn who are experts in their fields. Enhancing your social life may reap many benefits in the future, and you will learn a lot of things.
If you are finding it difficult to cope with the divorce, seek help from a professional. If you do not have the time to go for regular sessions, you may opt for online therapy. It may help you to reorganize your life and give you a new perspective.
- Learn to spend the time well
A tough phase like divorce can be too overwhelming. You can become engulfed by your emotions and may be unaware of the time passing by. You may also not be able to move forward. Hence, it is necessary for you to compartmentalize things and create boundaries between you and your emotions. Prioritize things that can affect your present and future.
Give yourself ample relaxation time by doing things you love. Take out 30 minutes a day for self-care elements like meditation, mindfulness and self-reflection.
The Bottom Line
A divorce can teach you many things about yourself that you were unaware of, including a new talent or career path that can take your life to a whole new level. Make sure you spend an ample amount of time in self-reflection to discover those hidden gems.
Pixie, a mother of nine, is a trailblazing entrepreneur who carved out her niche in the spirits world as the first woman owned distilery, Striped Pig which features Local Choice Spirits. Working in a male dominated industry, she learned quickly that she needed to connect with a sisterhood for support. As an award-winning business developer with a vision, Pixie’s need to connect with like-minded, strong women finally came to fruition when she took the helm of the iconic Skirt. magazine in the summer of 2019 and now leading her momentum with SkirtSmarts.