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Author/Television Reporter

Amanda Lamb is a professional television journalist and author. She covers murder trials by day and reads Dora the Explorer to her children at night. Somewhere in between all of that she writes about those parenting moments that catch each us off-guard in a crazy, chaotic, and wonderful way. Aman...

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Girls Will Be Girls

Amanda Lamb

Recently my daughter has made a new group of friends at her new school.  They’re great kids from nice families.  I’m thrilled that she is being accepted in a new environment. 

One thing I’ve noticed, however, is that the way girls socially interact is so different than boys.  They are emotional and sensitive way beyond their seven years.  The biggest issue I’ve found at this age is teaching inclusion, always, no exceptions.  At a young age we made it clear that leaving someone out would not be tolerated.  We’ve drilled it into my girls’ heads and constantly remind them of this.

My older daughter’s teacher, who has far more wisdom than I do when it comes to these situations, says that it is also important to let girls work these things out on their own, that it is part of growing up and learning how to make their way in the world.  She’s right, but being the control freak that I am it is hard for me to let go of wanting to micro-manage my daughter’s behavior.

I’m learning more how to sit back, and not intervene until I think it is absolutely necessary.  But I will if I have to.  I’m proud of my daughter for being such a good student, I’m proud of how talented she is in every activity she tackles from music to sports, but most of all I want her to be a good person.  I’m still trying to be one too.  Maybe we’ll learn together.